Empowerment: protect yourself from narcissists, sociopaths and other toxic types

2021-08-12 16:18:39 To those with a narcissistic father:

- Accept your dad for who he is.

- Accept that his behaviour has nothing to do with you.

- Limit your interactions with him and cut contact if necessary. Always prioritize your safety and well-being.

- Do not expect him to change.

- Stop seeking his approval, attention, or affection. Narcissists are incapable of celebrating your success. They constantly move the goal posts and redefine expectations so that they are never met and you never feel good enough.

- Do not let your dad –or anyone–determine your self-worth. Aprire / Come

2021-08-07 09:43:20 Have you been wondering why a certain person in your life –a significant other, a parent, a friend, or a colleague– is abusive behind closed doors but shows a charming façade in public? Do you find it hard to say “no”? Do you feel exhausted, confused, afraid that something might trigger another violent episode? Do you feel unable to leave a relationship that you know is toxic to you?

This guidebook and self-help book is written to help victims of psychological abuse understand the dynamics of abusive relationships with individuals suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder and other toxic types. Through example scenarios and personal experiences, the author illustrates the typical behavioral patterns observed in psychologically abusive relationships, the early warning signs, and tips for breaking these dangerous ties.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09BYBJ51T?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860 Aprire / Come

2021-08-05 01:29:00 Aprire / Come

2021-07-21 19:55:45 Practicing self-care can make a great difference in your healing journey. Below are some self-care tips for abuse-related trauma.


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2021-07-05 18:13:16 The use of guilt-tripping and other manipulation techniques that aim at coercing people into doing what they do not want to do are boundary violations.

When such experiences occur repeatedly during childhood, your ability to understand that you have a right to say 'no', that you have a right to set and maintain your own boundaries is severely affected.

If your boundaries weren’t respected in your childhood, you may believe you don’t have a right to have them, and most likely you don’t know how to communicate in an assertive way. But you can always learn to be more assertive by expressing your needs and wants in a positive way, and learning to say "no" when you need to.

Setting and maintaining personal boundaries isn’t selfish. It's self care.

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2021-06-30 02:20:34 Tips for communicating in an assertive way:

- Use "I" statements: "I want...", "I need...", "I feel..."

- Avoid using words that may undermine what you are saying, such as "I am not sure, but...", "I may be wrong, but..."

- Instead of "could", "might", or"should", try saying "will"

- This formula can be particularly effective: "When you...", "I feel...". Depending on the context, you can add an explanation: "because..." and a request: "What I need from you is..."

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2021-06-27 18:24:43 If you are considering therapy, I highly recommend asking the therapist whether he or she has experience with narcissistic abuse.

If you are OK with online therapy sessions, I would recommend BetterHelp.com, a network of licenced therapists specialised in different issues.

When you sign up, you'll be asked to answer several questions in order to be matched with a counsellor that fits your needs. For example, if you have experienced narcissistic abuse, write it down so you'll be matched with a therapist specialized in this type of abuse and trauma.

By paying a monthly fee, you'll be able to communicate with your therapist anytime through messages and chat, and you'll be able to book video sessions at a time that is convenient for you.

Too many survivors have had bad experiences with their therapist as she or he was not experienced with narcissistic abuse. That's why I'd like to recommend a service like Betterhelp, where you are matched with a therapist according to your need, preferences, and experience (and if you are not happy with your match, you can always change counsellor).

By using this link, you'll get a 1-week free trial.

https://www.betterhelp.com/rpc/2bcdd7d7e9e12680-1-01 Aprire / Come

2021-06-26 16:39:10 In the end, the goal of the abuser is always the same —to gain power and control in the relationship.

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2021-06-23 02:37:20 When you start making changes in your life, don't expect everyone to be supportive.

Pathologically envious people such as those suffering from NPD will plant a seed of doubt in your mind: "are you sure you're good for that job?" ,"you were never good at that".

Manipulators will try to make you feel guilty for taking time for yourself: "why are you never at home?", "what kind of mother/ wife would are you?", "are you not ashamed of yourself, after all you've done for you?"

Controlling personalities may try to re-establish control by threatening you and/or even physically assault you.

Remember: anyone who doesn't support you and your growth is not worth keeping. Aprire / Come